Shortcomings in self (I am not
beautiful, I am not intelligent etc) leads to frustration. If one is not able
to accept, this result in feeling of hopelessness as we then loses motivation
to make efforts and grow. But acceptance does not mean that there is no scope
of improvement. Acceptance does not mean stagnation. It only means not to feel
too negative about how the conditions are. Once you accept, you are calm and
this helps in channelizing your energies into efforts to improve conditions and
make life better.
Acceptance of others means not to
be judgemental about others. Accept them as they are. Every human being is
unique. Others may not think or act as you would. That does not mean he or she
is wrong or bad. Even if there are some obvious errors, do not judge. To err is
human. Most of the times intentions of the other person are not bad but we
assume so. Forgive others. This will make you feel better. And even if you wish
to bring about some change then try love in place of anger. You will get better
results.
No one can have a life as per his
or her choice. There are bound to be disappointments, failures, losses or other
reasons of unhappiness. Acceptance helps one to move on. And remember if you
have not accepted, the negative emotions will hurt your health both physical
and mental. So there is no point carrying negativity. Accept life as it comes
and move on. You will be able to live light and enjoy life.
Caution : Acceptance does not mean
that you let laziness make excuses and do not make efforts to bring about
positive changes. It is our duty to make positive efforts to make things
better.
